The beauty of being a woman today is being able to think for yourself. Unfortunately, some women feel threatened by this right to be and are determined to discourage other women from exercising this personal freedom.

I recently received an email requesting my support in banning a certain XXX actress from performing in Houston because (sender’s reasoning not mine) this woman and women like her were complicating the message, “women can work any job” and for encouraging sexual crimes. allowing themselves to be seen as sexual objects. As for the emailer’s first argument, isn’t this what women have been demanding all along, to be able to work where they have interest and ability?

I banged my head in amazement at the comments expressed by this woman thinking she can make life decisions for other women to prevent them from making decisions she doesn’t approve of.

I call it hypocrisy because women have been saying for a long time (a century and a half to be exact) that they are capable of working in any field of work. However, when they do and they don’t fit into some pattern of what others believe to be acceptable professions, an annoying hissing begins.

I personally wouldn’t want to make a living stripping on or off camera, but that’s how I feel. I am not saying yes or no “adult” professions, they are legal and women have the right to choose them without harassment from other women if they wish.

The claim that strippers and XXX actresses are the reason pedophilia and rape occur is forgiving predators. Also, blaming these women for crimes that date back to ancient times, before gentlemen’s clubs and peep shows, is grossly unfair. We cannot allow misguided beings who brutally rape others to avoid being held accountable for their actions just so we can harass women who have undesirable jobs.

The sender of the email stated that we, the community at large, must boycott this adult artist and others like her to prevent future generations of women from being exposed to her destructive messages. It’s funny, this same woman doesn’t seem to recognize that those same destructive messages are being promoted every hour of the day on radio, television and, yes, mainstream movies. I didn’t hear this woman vowing to boycott Basic Instinct (Sharon Stone) or Monster’s Ball (Halle Berry), when they hit local theaters. Do you wonder why?

I’ll tell you why. It is very possible that this woman has in mind that if nudity and explicit sexual acts are sanctioned by MGM or Sony Pictures, the final product would be acceptable, which could be another point of hypocrisy. If she wanted to be consistent with her argument, why didn’t she seek to ban all television shows, movies, and videos that expose young women to rampant sexual acts and misleading messages? She wouldn’t because that would be considered ridiculous by the masses.

Despite any criticism you may have of his intentions, I know that deep down he means well, but there are gaps in his logic. If the argument for the boycott is “this stripper (and women like her) are being viewed as sexual objects”, then I ask what is the difference between Halle naked and sexually provocative for Sony Pictures and Ginger stripping for Pimps Gentleman’s Club on the side. dark in the city Personally, I don’t see a difference between the two examples. Young women today are overwhelmed with sexual messages and almost no daily dose of positive images of femininity (emotionally and spiritually strong women).

Marginal note:

Do we really have the power to prevent someone from wanting another (seeing him as a sexual object)? The answer is no!

My suggestions to this woman are, make a difference to the next generation of women by living as an example, allowing younger women to see the confidence that emanates from you. Secondly, you should make it a point to explain to those young women how important it is to respect their bodies but not be summed up by them, after all, they have more to offer this world than just external beauty. Third, she must allow other women the right to take their own paths in life, regardless of whether or not she feels those paths are morally wrong, allow women to choose for themselves.

Simply put, boycotting women for taking advantage of their God-given right to think for themselves is not the answer. Again, it doesn’t matter if their choices appear to be bad, the very fact that they have the ability and the right to think for themselves must be respected. Encouraging women to recognize and appreciate every aspect of who they are, emotionally, spiritually, and physically, will leave a wondrous and undeniable legacy for the next generation of women.