“Will she regret breaking up with me?” That’s one of those common questions women ask after being dumped. Nothing hurts as much as the rejection you feel when the man you love tells you that he doesn’t want to be with you anymore. As hard as he tries, moving on without him can seem impossible. Even though the whole world and your own common sense are telling you to forget about it, you don’t have to travel that road. If you want him to regret leaving you and you want to hear him tell you that he can’t live without you, there are ways to do it.

The most important thing to remember if you want him to regret breaking up with you is to focus on yourself after the breakup. Your thoughts are naturally going to be consumed by him and what went wrong, but if you spend all your time wishing things were different, you’re missing out on an important opportunity. Your boyfriend loved you once, and you know better than anyone what qualities in you he found irresistible. You need to focus on bringing those qualities back to the surface now. Spend the first days and weeks after the breakup improving who you are. Your goal with this is to transform yourself into someone he will find completely irresistible.

You also have to show him that you’re okay without him. One thing that drives men crazy is a woman who is hard to come by. If you continue to contact your ex boyfriend after the break up, he will see you as too accessible or too possible. This is the exact reason why many men end their relationships. They just don’t feel the thrill of the chase anymore, so they decide to move on to someone else. Don’t chase your ex after he dumps you. Put on a brave face and tell him that you were also considering ending things. So don’t talk to him. You may think that this will get him to move on without you, but it really won’t. Suddenly he will feel the pain of rejection and he will be the one who wants you back. Stay strong and focus on not begging him to take you back. That will ensure that he actually comes back to you.