Go with the natural flow of events

What are you resisting right now in your life? Is it the sudden change of circumstances in relation to the Coronavirus? Is it something you are missing, like being in touch with loved ones, a friend, co-workers or others? What negative emotions are you experiencing as a result? Is it anger, frustration, anxiety, fear, or something else? How are you answering them?

I realize I’m asking a lot of questions, but it’s important that we understand what causes our emotions. Now of course you could say that I am angry and frustrated at being isolated from others against my will. And it wouldn’t be wrong to feel this way, however, what is the rationale behind it? You see, the emotions that you are experiencing can not only be attributed to separation. There could be something deeper below the surface that warrants your investigation. In my experience, working with people over the years, those who are most receptive to change always thrive.

These are people who are psychologically flexible and accept whatever life throws at them. It does not mean that they like what is happening. And I’m also not suggesting that you like what’s happening because that would be released from me. What I invite you to do is accept your current conditions to the best of your ability and make the most of them. Is this something you are willing to pay attention to? Could you consider the idea that you don’t need to like your current circumstances but just stop resisting them?

Resistance is futile because ultimately reality trumps our struggles and emotions. And who says that life should meet our expectations of how things should unfold? Life is a self-sufficient system that operates with its own natural laws. We must learn to comply with them because we are a drop in an ocean of vast cosmic intelligence, working tirelessly to maintain order. But sometimes what we initially experience is chaos that expands to create order. It makes it easier if we stop fighting what is happening and go with the natural flow of events. This is what it means to be grateful. It is the idea of ​​searching for hidden gems contained within unexpected events.

life is not personal

Without a doubt, what we pay our attention to becomes our focal point. So if you direct your attention to unpleasant circumstances, you’ll find evidence of it (confirmation bias) and call you back on your experience. But this comes at a cost to your well-being, which is paramount to your mental and physical health. Responding affirmatively to change means that, even if circumstances are not as we would like, we can turn misfortune into triumph. It means looking for the positive side of every experience, even if we have to look a lot, there will always be a positive lesson.

Listen, life is unfair. When we were protected by our parents or guardians when we were young, we may have assumed that life was fair. But we mature and discover through heartaches, setbacks, and disappointments, that life is anything but fair. This is because life is not personal. Read it again and bookmark it somewhere on your computer or smartphone. Life is not personal. You are part of the ecosystem of life and when you cooperate and collaborate with this energetic force, circumstances benefit you..

So, back to my earlier questions about what you are resisting right now. How can you take that experience and find a hidden treasure among it? Could you give yourself the gift of sitting with your negative emotions, to explore what is at the core of your resistance? I assure you that this practice alone can change your life more than you think.

It will allow you to control your emotions and understand their underlying motive. You don’t need to fight with life because to do so means resisting the gifts it brings. Those gifts will rarely come in the form you expect. They are often disguised as: difficulties, pain, struggle and disappointment and require that we face them with optimism instead of resistance. I often wondered: Why do some people struggle with change while others take it in stride? Why don’t these people let their experiences get them down? What do they know that others don’t?

I’m not convinced that successful people are wiser or smarter than the rest of us. However, I am sure that you have experienced anguish, suffering and misfortune knowing that difficulties do not come to disturb our peace, but to anchor ourselves in our resilience and sharpen the saw of our character. That is why those who are most receptive to change will prosper because they move with their circumstances and make the most of them. So give yourself that gift right now. Give yourself the gift of sitting with your emotions for 30 minutes to explore what’s really going on below the surface. Give yourself the gift of unlocking your true wisdom. Only then will you realize that prospering is not a state of mind but a way of being in the world.