Flirting is actually intuitive, but it can be difficult to do if you have the wrong mindset and don’t understand the technicalities behind it. Fortunately, due to the collecting community, it has been divided into a science, so learning to flirt won’t be that difficult after all.

In this article, if you are still confused on how to flirt, two specific flirting techniques will be discussed to help make flirting easier. They are Push / Pull and a playful and challenging vibe.

First of all, when we say that flirting is intuitive, it actually is, since when we tend to get comfortable with someone and like someone, we tend to make fun of that person in a playful way, or Challenge them playfully.

Think of a younger brother or a close friend. On numerous occasions, you may have made fun of them and even challenged them at something, be it seriously or playfully, because you knew they wouldn’t hate you or take you too seriously.

This will make the person like you more, counterintuitive as it may seem, and will make the relationship you have more exciting, since it is not just an emotion.

This concept applies directly to meeting girls, since for her to feel attracted and excited by you at that moment, your mentality has to be that of challenging her playfully. The idea is to challenge and do it in a playful way, as one or the other could lead to too much kindness or too much aggressiveness, which drives away girls and humans in general, specifically in a cold focus situation.

Now that you understand this, you should also understand that flirting is mostly about subcommunication and that what you say is less relevant but still has a place in the interaction. Remember this, as this topic will appear over and over again in whatever material you study and in whatever article you read.

So we went through a playful challenge, So what is push / pull? Pushing / pulling is similar to a playful challenge, but can be explained in a more technical way.

Definition:

To explain, push-pull is any statement, action, or mannerism that pushes a person emotionally and draws a person’s emotions to you simultaneously.

Former:

• I hate that I like you.

• You are so annoying, but you are kind of charming.

• We wouldn’t get along (classic old school pickup)

Pushing / pulling can also be a bit more creative and complex by giving the girl compliments like teasing.

Former:

• Why are you so adorable? Stop falling in love with you … (He said with a smile but slight annoyance)

• You are too cute and charming, but that’s why you make me nervous, so I don’t think we can talk anymore. (He said with a smile and a joking tone)

Can also be pushed / pulled through physical mannerisms. An example is that you could bring her closer and then if she says something you don’t like, push her away slightly or let go of her hand and look away. This will make him chase her more and turn her on. When you learn to flirt, you should aim to bring him a more amazing experience in interaction through multiple channels, and physicality is one of them.

Another example is that you can also go for the kiss, wait for her to lunge forward to kiss, and then turn your head before she kisses you and say “ I’m too shy ” while smiling and teasing her. This move is obviously done if she was looking at your lips and seemed very sexually aroused.

Now if you haven’t figured it out by now, because flirting is mostly in subcommunication, you can technically say anything and turn it into a tug of war. Your tone of voice, facial gestures, eye contact, and body language can say a completely different message compared to what you are actually saying verbally.

Former:

You: “I think we really get along.”

Now this phrase on the surface level is a compliment and not really a tug of war or a playful challenge. However, let’s say you said “ I think we really get along ” but instead said it with your head bowed, a slightly skeptical tone of voice, and squinting as you crossed your arms. The message is completely different and now it is a push, since the words are pulling her towards you emotionally, but the sub-communications are pulling her away emotionally as you seem to be unsure of her.

This concept, when used correctly, awakens the girl and creates feelings of attraction. What they also do, however, is hook their attention to you.

Engagement is important as during the initial moments of the interaction, the girl’s attention will be diverted to whatever she is doing if she cannot see some form of your current value or excitement. This is not because she is bad, but because it is just human nature, as we will not focus for long on anything that does not grab our attention or affect us emotionally.

This is one of the most interesting concepts to learn to be successful with women, so go ahead and give them a try!

Remind:

• Flirting or playful defiance is intuitive, and we do it with people we feel comfortable with.

• Pushing and pulling is any form of statement, action, or mannerism that simultaneously pushes and pushes the person away.

• The nudges go beyond words, as they are mainly found in subcommunication.

• Flirting is important when meeting girls, and especially in a cool approach, since when learning to flirt, the girl needs to feel aroused so that her attention remains on you for a long period of time and for you to carry on the interaction.