The crazy thing about life is that we are already kings and queens of our lives, but still we choose to be players or payers of the game. The game means the dating game. Dating is a process, decipher what type of individual, the characteristics of the person and their intellectual style. But some men and women take dating too far. Some people go out with the intention of having sex the first night. If nothing happens, they delete the buddy number or just don’t talk to them again. But I observe one thing in the dating world, that all the people who are in the game don’t know the rules of the game.

The game has two types of people, the player and the pay. Every game has two sides, the good and the bad. If you are lucky then you are fine. If you’re unlucky, it’s a shame. Some men may think that some women are hard to come by, don’t know what they want, or are just cocky. Some women may think that some men are too easy, don’t like challenges, or just don’t have patience. The first thing that a man and a woman should have if they are playing is patience. Patience is a virtue. It is imperative to understand that patience is between communication and trust. Patience can save you time and money. When people rush into marriage or relationship, things tend to go the other way around. Due to the lack of patience to get to know the person, it causes stress, headaches and I mean the types of migraine.

So the game has two types of people, the player and the payoff. Let’s define these two types. The player, the ladies men, the Mojo King, has all the answers in what a woman wants or needs. They know how to manipulate women, they observe them, they understand their emotions and they listen to a woman rather than talk to them to death. The players are the receivers, they receive more than they give. The payer, the ladybug, the crybaby, the fool, the ladies’ pet, the Joker, has all the answers when he pays a woman what she wants or needs. They don’t listen, if they talk to women until they say: Okay, no problem, my God! Payers are givers, they give more than they receive. The crazy thing about being a player or a payer is that we all pay in one way or another, but payers pay outside the norm that players do.

Dating is a game, it is a process. Management is a process, it is a game. For this reason, when people go to work, they say that work has a game. Managers or supervisors tend to say, Man, I’m tired of playing this game with this employee. To understand yourself, you have to understand the game; Dated. Understand that dating is not the key to access to sex or a one-night stand. Dating is the introduction of a short-term or long-term relationship. Dating is not a paradigm of marriage.

At the beginning of this article I talked about the first thing a man and a woman should have when playing games, which is patience. The second thing that I think men and women lack in dating is mutual respect. Open the door for the woman, present your flowers on the first date, that’s showing respect. The women smile, pretend they want to be there, even though this guy’s story is putting them to sleep with their boring educational status, three cars, and three or four investment properties. Split meals 50/50, help you with tips or just help you with gas money. You know that paying for gas these days is like paying your son or daughter’s tuition at a prestigious school. That’s funny!

Are you a player or do you pay? Or do you think there are more players than payers, or vice versa? So if you are a gamer then play your part in the game. If you are paying, play your part in the game. Always remember the rules of the game, never cheat because your players or payers will find the missing cards.