How long have you been with your current partner?

Some ladies have fallen into the trap of being in a relationship for 5-10 years. This is sometimes caused by the fear of losing that tall, handsome young man she has met. It may be that you have been alone for a long time before you met him and now you are afraid of falling back into loneliness if you leave him.

You think of those sweet words whispered in your ear when you are together. You remember the care and attention he gives you. He encourages you when you feel emotionally drained and when you express your feelings to him, he grants you a listening ear. You remember how he had taken you around the world in ‘7’ days and all the great memories you have had together. Not to mention the explosive orgasmic sexual episodes they have together.

With all these seemingly great relationships, the man is still not proposing to you.

There are some, however, whose relationships have been violent and turbulent, and yet the lady finds it very difficult to leave the man. The neighbors often break down doors for separate fights, but the lady refuses to finish.

This is as worrying as it is disturbing. The question is: why is this so?

When you look back, a long time has passed. You have spent most of your life with him and you begin to imagine the guilt and shame of society. You see yourself as a 100% loser if you chicken out after these donkey years.

In the course of cohabitation, you have even welcomed and given birth to a baby. Some have even given birth to one, two, three children without any commitment from the man. It has become a question of between and between. You cannot go forward or backward. It has become a dilemma for both men and women.

True love is a wonderful experience. When two people who love each other deeply come together, there is a spark of transformation. They want to please each other. They want to support each other. Having found themselves worthy in character and courage, her man will promptly propose to her. Then you will marry the love of your life and experience the kind of relationships you have always dreamed of together.

A relative of mine found herself in this mess. Today, she had fathered 3 children in cohabitation. The ‘husband’ stated that she often complains, scolds and gets angry easily. He complained about the lack of peace in her life and in her family since he came into contact with her. On the other hand, her ‘wife of hers’ insisted that she had been used and abused, so she cannot allow him to leave her and marry another woman. At the moment, the focus has even gone from marrying her off to the education of the children resulting from living together.

So how can you get your man to commit to you even when he thinks he’s not ready for the responsibility of marriage yet?

You have to develop an impeccable character. Are you open? You are kind? Are you considerate? Are you charitable? Are you accessible? You have to be a confident woman.

There’s no free lunch anywhere these days. You have to be an industrial woman. Are you an employee? Are you an entrepreneur? How much do you bring to the table? If you want to be the woman that men are quick to propose to, you need to be able to contribute to the household finances. Gone are the days when women are bottoms!

You must be supportive. It’s not just about financially supporting your partner, but also encouraging them to achieve their goals. You advise him every time he demands it. And most importantly, make sure that he enjoys peace when you are together.

When you exhibit these traits, men will go out of their way to commit to you. They will be desperate to propose to you. You will be the one to rate them and make the selection. The challenge you will have is the ability to choose the perfect life partner for you.